Concerning this Minecraft Java Server ordeal I have came to a conclusion that I will be hosting my own server for these reasons:
-I know what’s going on
-I can invest time into it whereas if I invest time in someone else’s and they decide to leave it and nobody joins again than it would be a waste of time and I don’t want that nor do I think anybody does.

I am sorry that I have to do this soupboi but I need to know what’s happening and keep the server up myself.

I don’t mean to over react to much because it’s just a server and even if it does die than just do something else but I see this as a great opportunity as Java edition has way more options to keep players in line rather than bedrock which was limited.